I have many musings, and my latest musing is, like others, has flitted into my head because of something I have either been told or have read.
Whining, is it a human nature trait, male trait, female trait or even a trans* trait? Is it something you do a lot when things are going wrong, or so they are perceived, or do you whine more when you are ill?
I know I have done my fair share of whining, not from being diagnosed with cancer, no, but from dealing with the pain of Chemotherapy, and anyone who has experience chemo will know exactly what I am talking about when it comes to pain. I also was subjected to ridicule and back stabbing as a result of my perceived childish whining, something that wasn’t always done to my face, but like the CIA, I am good at finding things out.
What I find curious, and this is something I have done myself which has driven me to put pen to paper as it were, is how we compare our own problems or perceived pain to what others are going through, and come to the conclusion that we are going through something harder, therefore others are whining.
I have recently had a lump found under my arm where surgery was performed last year, and after being assured that the lump results was going to come back as harmless, I was in fact told cancer cells were present and surgery is required to remove the lump along with a CT scan of my thorax, abdomen and pelvis to see if cancer cells have got into my lymphatic system and moving through my body.
Considering this initially put me in a low mood, I have also had a week of personality self discovery and was informed that I have narcissistic traits, which sounded bad at the time, and I have discovered, to my amusement I can be mercurial too. It is probably my narcissism that has spurred me to briefly think that many things I read could be considered as whining, which is highly unfair as to that person, what they are going through is emotionally painful to them.
Hence my musings, are we all to some degree narcissistic, are we all whiners and is this something that we can embrace and rectify.
Now that I am aware of my narcissistic traits, I can sometimes see my behaviour or reaction to something and attempt to alter how I respond i.e the moment I read someone elses problem, not only did I firstly think, oh my, try coping with something bigger instead of whining about your life, to thinking, hang on, this is something big to this person.
In a Utopian world people wouldn’t get criticised for expressing how they feel, and people would be fully aware that their actions can be hurtful but we are not in a Utopian world and this crap happens. Perhaps all of us needs a personality check and be made aware of our faults a little more often, that way we can take a moment to think before we criticise someone for expressing how they are feeling no matter how small we perceive the issue to be.